Forgiveness and acceptance are very close in my book and it's hard to find something I have to say I forgive myself for.... it's more something about myself I have to accept. Still, I feel it's close enough, and it's something pretty big.
I have to forgive myself for/accept that...I have changed - physically, emotionally, mentally - after the birth of my child.
I knew certain things would change. I wouldn't be able to go out as often, I'd have extra baby weight to lose, etc. But some things I was not expecting. And without going into too much detail, there are things that change about ones body after going through labor, other than excess fat. Hormones go awry. You are filled with a sense of more responsibility. And all of those things rolled into one equal "less romance" we shall say.
I have felt extreme guilt for no longer being the same person my husband married. I know he feels like he is less attractive to me, when in fact I am the one who feels less attractive to him. I know he feels like I am less interested in him, when in fact it has nothing to do with HIM; it has to do with all the hormonal and physical changes I've gone through as of late.
And I have to convince myself it's not really MY fault, that these things will change as time goes on, and that this is such a small and temporary setback in exchange for one of the most wonderful things ever.
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